Over the past few months our focus has transitioned towards lobbying for legal rights and protections of our community.
While we do not see the legalization of plural marriage as a realistic goal in the near future, there are many places in current law where the legal rights and protections of the non-monogamous community can be improved. These include, but are not limited to:
This puts us in the best position to advocate for the rights of polyamorous families and individuals. As we grow and gather support, our intention is to lobby for the improvements of these situations and to assist individuals who are adversely affected by the laws in their current form.
Our previous work focused on infrastructure and coalition building and we have not been in a position to put resources towards this area. It is our intention to greatly increase our activities in this area going forward.
We need your support in order to accomplish this valuable work for the polyamory community. Take action by volunteering or donating to our cause.
#YouKnowYourePolyWhen you’re at your mother’s 70th birthday party and she says to one friend after another, “You know my daughter, of course, and this is her girlfriend, and this is her husband.” And no one bats an eye, because your mother’s friends are nearly as awesome as your mother is.
Anyway. These are poly blogs you should follow. They all have incredibly interesting stories and share wonderful perspective on what polyamory is for them. If you’re polyamorous, or curious about it, or interested in experimenting, these people are great resources…
They say relationships are work. I have always assumed the work was pretending like you aren't sick of your partner's god damned face for as long as you can stand it.
Do you think relationships are work, and if so, what is the work?
While relationships aren’t “work”, they do require effort - especially if you are in multiple concurrent relationships. One big point of effort is realizing your own emotional responses and triggers to situations. That way you are able to tell your partner(s) how certain actions make you feel, for better or for worse. You also need to be able to listen to your partner share the same - how certain actions or activities make them feel.
A kink question on a polyamory Formspring!
First, ditch the ideal of “perfection”. Everyone makes mistakes. As for how to avoid mistakes - communicate and discuss expectations and personal boundaries. Also be prepared for your own internal boundaries to be triggered from time to time and don’t be afraid to communicate when that happens.
Why is there so much ill-feeling about poly fidelity?
From the conservative side - it deviates from the traditional two-person marriage. Within the poly community, there’s mixed opinions. Some are comfortable with polyfidelity. Others either balk at the implied boudaries/restrictions of a closed relationship, or anything that appears like the “couples model” but expanded to include multiple people.