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Polyamorists say that jealousy is not innate, inevitable and impossible to overcome. But they deal with jealousy often, usually successfully. There is a new term for the opposite of jealousy. “Compersion” is the feeling of joy that comes from knowing that the one you love is well loved by someone else.
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This is just a list of rules criticized over here. I’m probably taking this list out of context of the real article as an example.
A list of rules I hear about when talking to other polyamorist people:
- I must meet your new partner
- I want Wednesday, Friday and Sunday nights to be mine…
Hi there~ So through a series of discussions with some very educated friends of mine, I've come to discover that I am not a compulsive cheater but possibly polyamorous. I attempted to approach the topic with my current partner of about a year, and he got upset, thinking that he wasn't good enough. Do you know of any ways/resources for discussing my desire to have more than one partner without destroying a relationship that has been monogamous so far? Thanks :3
Congratulations on your discovery, first of all! It takes a lot to realize and accept something so complex and controversial about yourself. A great place to start, for both you and your partner, would be http://www.morethantwo.com/ - this website addresses issues of jealousy pretty darn thoroughly.
Most importantly, keep talking to each other about this. Communication is the #1 most important thing in any relationship — poly, mono, whatever. Keep being honest with one another about your needs, your reactions, your feelings. Reassure each other. Take it as slowly as you need to. Best of luck, darling. :)
Poly means closeness, love, acceptance, tolerance, friendship, and family. Nothing in my entire life has fulfilled me as completely as this lifestyle.
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I view polyamorists the same way I view skydivers — with a certain level of awe because they have achieved something I wouldn’t dare to even imagine for myself.”
-Kevyn Abernathy
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